This morning I had the great pleasure of being in a car with three other powerful, positive, visionary people. Yes –I said other, which means that I am claiming that for myself as well. When I’m at my best, I am also powerful, positive and visionary.
Which brings me to the point – your environment is absolutely critical to your success. You can – and should – intentionally choose your environment. Environment comes in many forms. We often don’t have control of all of them, but we can always improve our choices where we do have control.
Back to the car ride this morning. My dear friend and entrepreneur Dana Pharant was driving, and a powerhouse couple Jean and Blair Leggett were my other ride-mates. You’ll be seeing Jean and Blair on Dragon’s Den sometime in the next 8 months, talking about their amazing digital story-telling platform called One More Story Games. And Dana, a dynamic speaker, author, energy healer and business owner will soon be taking larger stages with her message of empowering women by embracing their inner dominatrix. I can’t wait to see what that looks like!
The conversation was so engaging and Yes-oriented that I felt a natural high by the end of the ride. I was talking with people who have big visions and they are out there doing, not just wishing. That describes me as well, when I’m at my best. Clearly that is not all the time! I can be making better choices about which environments I spend time in. How about you?
Three environments that are affecting your success:
Look around your space. What do you see? When you scan the room, where do your eyes come to rest? Stacks of paper? Piles of crap? Unfinished projects that suck you back into the past every time you look at them? I realize that the boxes of unsold CDs from my music days have to go. There is some grieving involved, but also excitement at making room for my full passion to be channeled into coaching and speaking.
Think about how you want to feel in your space. Even if you live in a busy household with other people, find a way to carve out a corner that nourishes you. Put something inspiring on the wall where you work. Do something right now to improve your physical environment so that it supports where you want to go, instead of holding you in the past.
The more I grow, the more I realize that what I allow into my psyche has a direct effect on my mood and effectiveness on any given day. For instance, when I read the news for an hour every morning – which I love to do – and then contrast how I feel if I instead read or listen to Success Magazine, the difference is pretty stark. After the news, I feel mentally cluttered, anxious and a bit tired. I’m slow off the block with business tasks. Even though I tend to avoid reading negative articles, you can’t avoid the headlines!
On the other hand, Success Magazine is a steady diet of inspiration! After listening to one of the recordings – even better when coupled with a power walk – I am alert and motivated. Boy I’m sharp! I get so much done. I’m more connected to my passion for what I do, instead of grumbling about the work involved or indulging in worry and self-doubt. No contest. Take a look at your mental diet and see what you’d like to add or subtract.
It’s been said many times that you are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
A story from Jack Canfield drives this home. Years ago he was speaking on a stage right before Tony Robbins. Afterward he said to Tony: ‘We both have very similar messages and teach the same things – how come I’m a millionaire and you’re a billionaire?’ Tony replied: ‘Who are you hangin’ out with?’
Think about where you want to go. Is there anyone in your social circle who plays on that level? You may need to make some adjustments. I’m not suggesting you dump all your friends, but it is important to surround yourself with people who are playing a bigger game. You will learn so much from how they think and what they do – and don’t do – that you will find yourself expanding and showing up at your best because that’s the norm in this circle.
On the other hand, if your current circle is filled with people who gossip, complain, constantly justify and look for reasons why something won’t work, you may need to make a change. Everyone has down days. We all need to know we can be vulnerable and ask for help. The difference is that success-oriented people want growth. They want to stretch beyond their comfort zone. They take responsibility for manifesting their goals. This is the company you want to keep.
What was that big goal or dream again? If you’re constantly feeling like it’s an uphill battle to make progress in reaching it, review these three environments and see what has to change.