But at any moment, that can change! We can hop out of the rut and back into an exciting, fulfilling journey.
An important thing to remember first of all, is not to judge yourself. Life has ebbs and flows. This is normal and natural. And fallow time, down-time, time to germinate and percolate are a valid part of life’s rhythm. But if you’re reading this and recognizing an internal itch, you’re probably ready to leave the plateau you’ve found yourself on and jump into something bigger!
Fortune favours the bold.
- ancient latin proverb
Life is calling you; It’s time to play a bigger game!
Right now, name a goal – just quietly and to yourself – that has always excited you. Maybe you’ve never taken it seriously and it’s been more of a wish or a hope, carrying yearning and self-doubt along with it. Maybe it feels more real, but you’ve relegated it to the back burner, promising yourself that one day you’ll make the time.
Do you want to get your sales on the leader board at work? Ask someone to marry you? Run your first marathon – or your first 5k? Sky dive? Shift your practice to serving HNW clients? Build a treehouse for your kids? What makes your heart leap?
Much of our ability to achieve big goals has to do with getting out of own way. Busting past old imagined limits.
Are you ready to dust off your dreams and be bold?
Here are some tips to propel you forward:
Expand what you think is possible. Who’s on the road ahead of you? Who’s already done what you want to do?
I was recently at the gym doing some weight lifting. I was waiting next to squat machine while another woman – I’m guessing about eight years older than me – was completing her reps. She looked like an averagely fit person. She was lifting 100lbs more than me! In that one second, I immediately revised what I thought was possible, and added 20lbs more to my reps.
Give yourself permission to completely suck at it! The pressure to do something perfectly can paralyze us and stop us from trying at all. Instead of all that pressure, make it your goal to fall flat on your face the first time! Do that presentation as a sloppy, crappy mess. Speak up clumsily. Call it your ‘stumble-through’.
Yes, I can hear you squawking: I can’t do that! I’d risk burning a lead. It would have implications at work. If someone sees me fail, they’ll think poorly of me and who knows what horrible things could come out of that? What if she says no?
Which leads me to the next tips…
Build in some safety and support. Tell a couple of people you really trust what it is you want to try. Make sure these people are in your corner whether you succeed or fail. Make sure they are the kind of people who believe that growth doesn’t happen without risk, and that they’ll applaud your efforts not just results. Ask them to book-end your bold move with you: give you a pep talk before hand and debrief it afterward. This will both give you comfort and keep you accountable.
Take a practice run! Whenever possible, find low-risk ways to practice. Ask a colleague if you can talk with one of their HNW clients and practice-pitch them to get feedback. Practice that critical presentation at home, in front of a loved one. Hire an expert coach so you can practice and hone your skills in private. Try out your marriage proposal on a friend.
When I was getting back into singing after several years away, I sang at a café in Paris when I was on vacation. No one knew me, so who cared how I did? When I wanted to get a job with a top training firm, I practiced my audition presentation over and over at home, first.
Be bold! When we step way out of our comfort zones, we permanently expand them! One of my favourite quotes from Jack Canfield:
The biggest reward of going after your goals isn’t achieving them. It’s the person you become in the attempt.
When we jump out of our rut and step out boldly, suddenly life is exhilarating again! We don’t know exactly what will happen next, but we do know that our horizons have expanded. Suddenly, anything is possible. And that’s an alive, beautiful way to live.